RULES OF/FOR LIVING
JUNE 1987 Updated November 1988 Updated again April 1998
GEOFF FERNALD
FOR SARAH AND ELI

BE OF USE
ENJOY YOURSELF
MIX WITH OTHERS, Communicate
WIERD CAN BE A GOOD WORD
BE A GOOD FRIEND TO SOME PEOPLE
DON'T LET MATERIAL THINGS OWN YOU
CHANGE THINGS IF YOU NEED TO
BELIEVE IN CAUSE AND EFFECT
CHOOSE HARD, IMPORTANT THINGS TO ACCOMPLISH AND DO THEM.-94
FAMILIES ARE VERY IMPORTANT, CHILDREN AND PARENTS
LEARN
DONT WASTE ENERGY ON HATING ANYONE
MAKE PROMISES CAREFULLY AND KEEP THEM.
CARRY YOUR OWN WATER.

 

RELATIONSHIP IDEAS:

Our Relationship

Imagine a rope; your wish to connect well; between you and your love. It should always be slack.

Imagine a tin can telephone with the thread between you and your love. It should be in tension (for communicating) daily, that you hear each other.

You look into each other and see epiphanies, transcend, share insights, discoveries, emotional level, spiritual level.

"For one human being to love another human being: that is perhaps the most difficult task that has been entrusted to us, the ultimate task, the final test and proof, the work for which all other work is merely preparation. Loving does not at first mean merging, surrendering, and uniting with another person-it is a high inducement for the individual to ripen, to become something in himself, to become world, to become world in himself for the sake of another person; it is a great, demanding claim on him, something that chooses him and calls him to vast distances."

Rainer Maria Rilke from Letters to a Young Poet, pages 151-3.

ADVICE?

LOVE vs LUST

-is friendship that is very strong and lasts
-must go to a person and come from a person to be companions
-is not lust
-lust is sometimes mistaken for love for a few months or minutes
-changes with time into a very large and stable caring or may go away


HAVING CHILDREN
-is wonderful. One of lifes greatest gifts, but is also work and well worth the time.
-is best saved until you are married and grown-up. in our society this tends to be between 24 and 30 if you go to college, 22-28 if you move out on your own at 18.
-is best when you want children rather that by accident.
-for ways to prevent accidental children see the attached chart.

SOME THOUGHTS ABOUT: LIKE, LOVE AND NOT HAVING CHILDREN


A-Being physical (i.e. kissing, holding hands, hugging) with someone you like is O.K., but is best kept from getting too physical- called heavy petting- before you reach college age. This is difficult when you like someone because your emotions and desires can take over.

B- Heavy petting can lead to "love making" which you will be better able emotionally to handle when you are 18 or older.

C-love making can lead to babies if you don't use a preventative method.

D-several diseases can be given to another person by love making; an important reason to limit the number of people you mix that closely with.

E-lovemaking and best friendship are very strong emotional things. We must be careful and selective with whom we choose to share such strong emotions.

-THE ATTACHED LIST OF METHODS FOR PREVENTING PREGNANCY AND DISEASE IS PROVIDED TO TEACH YOU BEFORE YOU NEED THE INFORMATION SO YOU DON'T LEARN TOO LATE.

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REMEMBER, HAVING A BABY IS A BIG DEAL, AS IS RUNNING OVER SOMEONE IN YOUR CAR. THE FIRST BABY HAVING EVENT IS USUALLY HAPPY IF YOU WANT ONE, AND SAD IF YOU DON'T. BOTH BABY HAVING AND RUNNING OVER SOMEONE HAPPEN FROM LITTLE MISTAKES.